The opportunity given to those second to act, (in my case, being the youngest of two brothers) is the ability to observe others before you.
All my life, I’ve used the lens of observation.
As a child, it was clear and unhindered as I looked on. But observation can turn into judgment, the result of fear and observation coalescing.
Unfortunately, few of us have the self-awareness, at the time, to notice the merging of fear into observation and slide into judgment.
We will judge others and ourselves. Both are side of sides of the same coin.
We will judge others to the same degree that we judge ourselves.
Judgment must be seen and let go of, for judgment freezes you in time; you cannot create in time, you have to be timeless, free, and unhindered.